Today I focus my post around the importance of a genuine apology. I think today there’s such an emphasis on being tough and not letting anyone see you waiver that people forget the importance of apologizing. Everyone wants to be seen as the perfect human and apologizing means you’ve lost that standing. It’s important to remember that nobody is perfect, except the Lord himself. Since Adam and Eve (who have been scientifically proven to have existed) we are by nature a sinful people. Jesus came down and died for our sins in an effort to allow us to still be saved. That being said, that doesn’t mean we should go out and just start sinning and asking for forgiveness, but we have to be aware that we will sin sometimes. We are not perfect and we never will be. We have to accept our flaws and along with that apologize for our wrong doings and ask for forgiveness from others.
When I was younger I never wanted to apologize for anything. I just knew I was always right and my pride (aka the devil) would just not let me say those two simple words, “I’m sorry.” But now you can’t stop me from apologizing! I actually told my father the other day that every night before I go to sleep I think on all of my actions from that day, and if I believe I’ve done something that deserves and apology I do it. I may do it right then, or I may wait until the morning. I may send a gift, or extend a phone call, but the message is that if I was wrong I was wrong and that deserves to be recognized. Now I also recognize how hard it is to apologize, and so for those that find it nearly impossible to do so, let me help you!
First, in order to find apologizing easy we must be 100% ok with ourselves AND ALL OF OUR FLAWS! We can’t just say it or tweet it, we actually have to fully look into ourselves and pull out everything good and bad that makes us us. We have to sit with that knowledge until we can look ourselves in the mirror every morning and say, “I love me, no matter what.” I think this truly is the hardest part about learning to apologize. It takes a lot of time, effort, strength, and faith. Second, we must be able to allow for failure. We can no longer fear failure, but look at it as a learning point that will help us build to the better life we will love and deserve. Allowing for failure also allows for the knowledge that we are not perfect. The acceptance that sometimes, no matter how hard we try or want it we will still fail. We must trust in God’s plan and have a slippery skin. What I mean by that is that we have to let that negative attitude come and go. It’s going to try and hold onto us, but we have to let it slide off. Shake, jump up and down, we have to do whatever we have to do to get back to our positive state.
Lastly, and I would say most importantly, we have to allow ourselves to see outside of our own emotions. Life not all about us. Life is a comprehensive smorgishboard of people, places, and actions. Not one person can go through life without encountering another human being. It is important that we understand this and understand that the emotions we feel, they feel them as well. We can not discount his or her emotions just because they don’t agree with ours. We have to understand that we are not the most important all the time. We are not all that matters in this world. We have to make room for differing opinions, ideas, emotions, etc. We cannot get angry and lash out when people don’t agree with us. We cannot hold so tight to our beliefs and opinions that we don’t allow room for those of others. We cannot be so intouch and tied to our own emotions that we forget the emotions of others.
When we forget these things is when we must find it within ourselves to apologize. It is not easy, but it is necessary in order to have successful and continuing relationships. Don’t block your blessing because you can’t rise above the devil in you (pride). Stay true to yourself, but always keep the knowledge that none of us are perfect. Love yourself, but allow yourself to love others in a way that respects their emotions and opinions. Be the one that sets the example for those who are lost, and most of all, Be You.
*** I am a Christian and therefore my beliefs are founded in that. I do hope, however, that regardless of religious belief my messages can help and translate across all cultures!
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