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"I'm Fresh Out of Advil, Jesus Grab The Wheel"

 “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” – Reinhold Niebuhr    

          Something I struggled with for the longest time was obsessing over the things I couldn’t change. Ever since I can remember I’ve been a helper, an influencer. If someone needed me for something I was there. When my friends were in trouble I was the one they called. If someone needed to talk I was the listening ear. My mom always told me, “Alexis, other people’s problems are not your responsibility,” but somehow I felt like they were. If I could do something to improve their current state why wouldn’t I?

          However, this burden carries a heavy weight. Whenever I couldn’t help someone I obsessed over it. I did everything within my power, and would just keep trying. I would lose sleep, increase my anxiety, etc. It wasn’t until I met a situation where I truly could not help the person that I found myself realizing how much of a toll this was really taking on me. My every thought centered on just finding a way. It was tearing me apart. It was so important to me I began to lose sight of myself. This is easy to do with something or someone that really matters to you (a person, a thing, and/or a circumstance). You’re so wrapped up in emotion you forget you still matter as well. You don’t want to fail them, but sometimes even more so, you don’t want to fail yourself.

          It takes a lot of maturity to face something that holds great importance to you and just let it go. I learned I had to trust in God. I had to realize that everything in this life happens for a reason. I don’t choose my destiny, as much as I would like to think I do, and I can’t change things that weren’t meant to be. I had to learn that letting go isn’t selfish, but an acceptance that you’ve done all you can and now it’s up to the situation, the person, and God to figure out the rest. No matter how much you want to make a difference if it’s not the time for change, or the person doesn’t see it as important, it will not happen. You have to know which battles are worth fighting. You never want to lose yourself in someone else’s struggle, or even your own. Even some personal battles have to be left to faith at some point. Sometimes you just have to let go and let God. If the change is meant to be he will make sure it happens exactly when and as it is supposed to. Trust in him. Never doubt him. Never question him. And as important as it is to Be You, remember it’s more important to Be Godly (whichever God your beliefs may align themselves with).
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